During a weekend Tantra workshop, for both men and women that Charu held just this last weekend, an overriding and difficult to ignore context was felt and even outright spoken by the women: “We are dying to be met by man!” These women are powerful, vibrant and a most excellent cross sectional representation of all woman.
Another woman who had read one of my previous blogs some time ago wrote, “We are waiting…we are listening.”
These invitations are so obvious…so loud…so consistent!! There is a definite calling out to man. Like one of those new huge and very bright multi changing roadside billboards that are popping up everywhere. You cannot miss one of those billboards and yet a call from woman, the most valuable of all calls, is apparently being missed.
What does it mean to be met? Obviously, it is the past tense of meet! Let’s go a little deeper. Synonyms of met include:
• encounter
• get together
• get to know
• join
• experience
Now we are getting somewhere. In order to have any type of successful encounter, a get together, a getting to know, a joining or experience let’s inquire into what few basic things need to be in place…and this is just to begin with. There are so many other ways we don’t have the time or space to address. However, I believe the following to be crucial. How about:
• being present
• being grounded
• having clarity
What many men do not know, or they refuse to rightly acknowledge, is that woman is the most intuitive creature on this planet. Any man who thinks he can successfully bluff his way through any “meeting” of woman is mistaken. Of course we can all bluff our way through some superficial social or business interaction that is short lived. But any meaningful interaction that is to exist at all for a sustained period of time, regardless if it is short term recreational or long term committed, will be explored and questioned through her intuitive realm. Is he being present, is he grounded, does he operate with clarity ?? etc.
If there is a shred of hope for a “meeting” of man and woman, man must show up. At the bare minimum, he must *be present*. This is the Essence of Tantra — * Be Present *. Being grounded in who you are as man, preferably grounded on a foundation of honor, integrity and reverence for woman is essential to occurring with clarity. Having these 3 things occur in only brief moments just isn’t enough. When these qualities are integrated…when we as man do not have to think about them, then we just are these qualities. Meeting woman from this place is easy.
There are so many women looking for just this. There is a definite calling out to man.
Here is an exercise you can explore while you go about your day. Notice how woman looks at you. She is always watching. Notice how she is listening to you. She is listening too. Are you upset / uneasy that she is watching? On some level are you afraid to be revealed when your bullshit runs out? Do you feel under the gun or do you embrace this watching and listening because you know that you have nothing to worry about?
If you have nothing to worry about, chances are great that you are present, grounded and clear. Woman cannot help but respond. This looks like opening and flowering. She wants to open. When woman feels unsafe to open, to experience the fullness of her destiny, it is akin to a criminal act. When she is allowed to open, when it is safe…. When she has been met, it is a gift to you and also to all of mankind.
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