Men, do you want her and you to WIN this Valentines Day?
Do you, for once and then forever more, want to feel ZERO pressure about doing Valentine’s Day “right?”
Would you like the woman in your life to be happy not only on Valentines Day, but every day?
Do you really think she wants:
- a big box of mass produced chocolates?
- or the typical last minute dozen red roses from the freeway off ramp vendor?
- or an overpriced mediocre dinner out with all the other couples who have bought into the cultural mandate that this is the one day to prove that she is important?
Does Valentine’s Day leave you feeling unfulfilled? Or heavy? Or anxious? There’s a good chance that it feels the same for her…. Follow me here if you would like a different experience…fortunately, to figure this out is really very uncomplicated….let me break it down for you…
You see, she has chosen *you* and has said YES to *you*!
*she wants YOUR appreciation, respect, admiration, love, tenderness, care, strength, clarity all the time, as only YOU can provide it…..as opposed to feeling like how much you value her hinges on this one day. Show her by your actions that you are “IN” with her, for her…for you both. Be generous…
Sounds good right? Now, how do you do this? It’s easier than you think…here are some examples to keep the fire going every day:
*Send her text every so often that tells her that you’re thinking of her and how glad you are that she is in your life…or how much you love her smile…or thank her for being patient with you when you have been tired and frustrated…
*Touch her gently, and often, in a way that gives to her without any expectation that she has to do something in return…
*If going to thrift stores brings her joy, make a plan to go with her next Saturday and enjoy watching her feel that joy…
*Give her a cuddle before getting out of bed and tell her how lucky you know you are that she is with you…
*Invite her to go to the beach or go on a hike with you and plan for, and pack, a light meal with a favorite beverage…
*every so often hug her warmly, firmly…tenderly …rest your cheek next to hers…look into her eyes and marvel at the life and love looking back at you…
*Do not answer your phone, check your inbox or respond to text messages during the time you’ll spend with her…
*Wash your hands before you reach out to touch her intimately…
*Offer to brush her hair, and keep gently brushing it even when brushed through while she tells you about her day…
*how about offering to run an errand for her while you are out…
*ask her if there is anything you can do to take something off her plate to make her day a little bit easier…
And then, when Valentine’s Day comes around, absolutely acknowledge that it is a special day for lovers and co-create something wonderful with her.. You’ll find her eager, open and excited because every day with you before has already felt like Valentine’s Day…
This (and so many other ways you could uniquely and creatively offer) is what she wants and she wants some form of this every day, even during the times that you’re not getting along as much as you would like…
And the good news is you do not have to do any of this “perfectly.” If, while doing your best, it occasionally all falls apart, she’ll still be happy because it’s the consistent heartfelt effort that counts the most…
Caveat: even if you only feel it a little bit, you must *genuinely* feel your attraction, love and desire for her in order for these actions to be received fully by her. If not, she will feel their inauthenticity and your agenda behind them.
As you can imagine, any, all and more of this that is meant for her will increase the degree of your connection together and absolutely influnce how deep you two will go in exploring profound intimacy, sex and love. In my world, that is definitely worth showing up for!