Very early man (think hunter gatherers) operated at his most basic nature. Simply put, he had only 4 things on his plate to deal with:
• Eat: where does his next meal come from
• Fight: who he will have to fight to protect himself
• Fuck: who’s next
• Sleep: where is a safe place to sleep
If that early man checked off at least three of those 4 on the list, he was successful and lived to the next day where he got to do it all over again. He was just doing…driven by a deep biologic imperative.
No doubt he was very present and life was already very edgy and unpredictable. He probably felt very alive. He had his balls. In fact, if he wasn’t holding a weapon, he most likely had both hands on his balls! 🙂
At our core, men have not changed much. We are “elegantly simple” as Justin Sterling says. I get that. It makes sense. No matter how much we evolve, we will still Eat, Fight, Fuck and Sleep
Of course, we now live in a modern world and that list above could look like this:
• Eat: Where do I go for dinner tonight.. Ethiopian or Mandarin?
• Fight: Who will try to car jack me while driving to dinner or, who at work is trying to push me aside and get my corner office
• Fuck: Will my date let me sleep with her after dinner tonight
• Sleep: Hopefully I’ll make it home before 3 am.
Today, it is possible to see many men operating at that basic level or from that biologic imperative. Frankly, this was me a long time ago. It was all about me. I was a basically driven man (and greatly assisted by my ego) and, without knowing any better, I was happy and felt successful with my limited gains as I checked off my list.
I also attended, and participated in the production of, very powerful seminars for men that gave me, not only permission to be this basic man, but an even deeper visceral connection to my balls. This was terrific work. It took all my Eat, Fight, Fuck and Sleep to a *whole new level* of raw enjoyment!
However, my relationships with others although fun were unrewarding and ultimately bottom line limited to the simple exchange of common goods and services.
After years devoted to this re-discovery, I realized I had taken that particular men’s work as far as it could go and, knowing in my gut that there was “more,” decided to explore in another direction.
With both hands on my balls, I showed up at my first ever Tantra weekend intensive which quite surprisingly and unmercifully cracked opened my heart and allowed what I intuitively knew to be true to flow effortlessly. A new awareness had come forth. Tantra connected me to my heart…a place that had been muted to most everyone except my children and now I was on a collision course with the way I didn’t trust anyone else with the totality of what my heart had to offer because too many times I’d been hurt…too many times I’d been misunderstood.. etc.
Now I began to take the risks necessary to bridge the potential between my balls and my heart. Eventually I realized that really big things in life can be accomplished by men who not only have the balls to do it but are driven to succeed by their connection to their heart. My ego and the basic ways of living were no longer the predominant driving forces in my life. They have taken on a more supportive role as I began to intuitively and unfamiliarly act in relationships in ways that were “dangerous” … meaning I could get hurt. I also began to ask the question of what my Higher Purpose is…
For me, that same list of 4 items now look like this:
• Eat: Every bite I take is an invitation to allow every flavor to engulf me
• Fight: The only battle I have is the rare one when my ego gets engaged…and not ignoring that a keen awareness of my environment is necessary as I do live in a dangerous world
• Fuck: I experience Communion with my Beloved
• Sleep: I easily sleep knowing that each day I have lived a life worth living
In my opinion, in today’s modern world, Man can choose to ignore:
• the call of Life,
• the call of Woman
• the call of the children
…and live a very limiting basic life until he breathes his last breath.
Or, he will eventually see that other men are living more playfully abundant, powerfully directed and richly loving full lives that are a result of the incorporation of the full use of their balls along with the full use of their hearts. These are the men who hear the calls of Life, Woman and Children and dynamically press themselves forward to answer those calls.
and, I have seen this modern world loosely divided into two types of men;
• those who are living from their balls and seem to be stuck in a loop of the limitations of this way of living and experience limited or almost no access to their hearts and
• those in the “sensitive new age guy” community who are genuinely opening their hearts yet in many ways have unknowingly left their balls behind.
I am holding a space for a new kind of man. These are men who have one hand on their balls and the other hand on their heart. You will know these men when you see them. These men have a certain glow…an easy openness…a calmness…a warm gaze…they just *are*. Other men will trust them. Their woman will surrender to them. Children will look up to them.
This is exactly what I work with my private clients on, the simple and basic core principles I identify that, when fully integrated, allows man to operate:
• with one hand on their balls and the other hand on their heart
• with ease and powerful clarity in life while experiencing the magnificence of woman are..
Private coaching with me is a safe and sacred space where you can find your edge in life and reach the next level.
I invite your comments below!